New Year's Objectives...

All right... I'm headed out of town for New Year's. I will be going to --- yay! --- a city. That means people. That means men. That means ample flirting opportunity.

Since I'm not even good at basic flirting, let alone PUA or seduction, these be my goals:

1) Flirt with everything that moves. Male, female, animal, whatever.

2) Ooze charm. I'm going to try the "Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts" method here, that being to simply think yummy thoughts about the person I'm looking at/talking to. We'll see how it works...

3) Use flirting to make my life easier on at least one occasion, assuming an occasion presents itself.

4) Make eye contact! Make them look away first.

Any other suggestions are welcome... until I get back, by all means comment on the previous post --- I'm curious to hear what people have to say --- and I'll give a report as soon as I get home.

Happy New Year!!

Judging the book by its cover?

How much do looks matter?

They definitely help get a foot in the door with some guys... but beyond that? Male PUAs refer to women using a numerical system (brunette 9.5, blonde 10), which is based pretty much on appearance as far as I can tell. So it's obviously important... but is a friendly smile going to go further than a sexy dress?

To take it further, what kinds of clothes attract what kinds of guys? Does the aforementioned friendly smile work on the same guy whether you're in a slinky red dress, or a t-shirt and jeans, or a suit? What about a sporty look versus something goth? Can you get the same guys with different looks, or are certain men going to go only for a certain style? And is it better to just "be yourself" or to explore and try out different looks, even if they're not totally natural?

Hm. Things to ponder...

Mission Ideas?

So... I want to come up with actual missions. Fox suggested on Womenslair that we do things like approach a certain number of guys, and then work on getting a hug close or number close... It's a great idea, and I want to come up with more.

Any ideas for non-intimidating missions? I'd rather start at the shallow end of the pool and work my way in.

For reference: I live in a fairly rural area where everyone knows everyone else and anything I do could potentially start a rumor; major people-filled spots consist of the mall, the mall, and, uh, the mall; and I'm going to be at a large university with a fairly religious/conservative student population in a couple of weeks. So, with that in mind... Any suggestions?

Ah, the sweet feeling of being RIGHT...

Lol... so... my ex has a new girlfriend.

This is amusing on several counts. I'm not remotely surprised, and I'm totally happy for them... but I'm also glad that I dumped him when I did. It wasn't going anywhere, and he's... well, when we broke up, he insisted that he couldn't even think of holding hands with another girl until I left for school, but it's only been two months, I'm still here, and he's deeply madly into her. My grandma warned me that he was the wishy-washy type, more concerned with conquering me and having a makeout buddy than with being with me, and, as always, she was right. I hope the new girlfriend gets the good end of it, though. He was a crash-course in romance for me, which was great for me if bad for him, but I'm afraid he might be the same for her...

Of course, it would have been nice if he'd pined over me a little longer. Although I guess a month of pining for a two-month relationship isn't half bad... Lol...

And, as you may have gathered, yes, I am pretty new to all this relationship stuff. Which is why I'm interested in the PU stuff... I don't want to end up with someone I'm not totally into because my options are so limited, and I don't want to be naive enough to dive headfirst into a relationship just because I feel powerless. I ended up with him because he liked me and made me feel like someone didn't think of me as just a friend. How much better would it be to have lots of people like me and see me as something other than a friend, and then have my pick of the lot?

Oh... and Merry Christmas!

Woot!

Okay... just finished The Game and am starting The Art of Seduction. Will probably post more about The Game later... I took nine pages of notes while reading. I really want to take this and seriously apply it to women, and avoid some of the problems the PU community in the book had.

In other news... Everyone go check out Vanilla Soup's Women's Lair (the link is to the right, under "Forums"). Looks like it's going to be a pretty cool forum. Heck, it's already a pretty cool forum... it just needs people.

Google Group!

Started a Google Group for fPUAs.

http://groups.google.com/group/fpuas

Come check it out!

The Game

Wow.

Just started reading "The Game." I knew it was the PUAs handbook and all, but... wow. Consider me fascinated.