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Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Flirting frenzy, indeed.

So... the new semester's been pretty profitable so far.

A guy from back home has been off-and-on with me. It's more a case of me trying to not be seduced by him, because's frankly probably not that good for me, but oh-so-gorgeous and oh-so-tempting. Not overly interested in me, though he can put on the pretense when he's lonely. However this works out, he WILL see me as an attractive, desirable, and possibly unattainable woman. I'm trying The Art of Seduction methods with this one. He's a grand experiment. Somehow I think he'd be wryly amused if he knew.

A guy from school who I knew last semester asked me out. We had an awesome time, but, as usual, he's completely awesome and therefore I'm not too attracted to him. Really nice guy, but I'm just not feeling the chemistry. He seems to take dating more seriously than I do, but... well, we'll test the waters. We've agreed to have a second date, though the particulars are up in the air.

The guy I mentioned a while ago who seemed totally turned off by my briskness got back in touch with me and said he wanted to hang out. In all honesty, I've kind of missed him, so we're coordinating schedules. Still not sure how romantic I want to get, but I'm keeping options open.

A guy from a group I belong to walked me home. He's headed out of town for the rest of the semester, but it appears that he intends to keep in touch... he sent me a message the other night that made me grin, because frankly I don't think I've ever been that overtly flirted with in my life. He said he is going to write a poem about me --- I'm "inspiring" --- and that I'm very attractive, among other things. It's all just generally over-the-top and delicious. Rawr.

What gets me about all this is that I've hardly had to try. Guess it's springtime magic. ;)

Oh, also, I learned a few other things about attracting attention.

1) High heels. They really do work. I've been experimenting, and the last three times guys have seriously hit on me, I was in heels (and walking like I belonged in them). When I'm in flats they're still nice but not so interested.

2) Walk and stand like you're a triple E. Seriously. Good posture with the chest way out gets looks and smiles like nothing else. (This probably only works because I'm a B, so I don't have tons to flaunt.) I think the key here is to make it look like good posture, not just that you're sticking your breasts out into space. :p Or, heck, why complicate things? Sit up straight.

All right, have to dash off to class. Have a scrumptuous day!

Sunday, April 20, 2008

New semester... old dramatics... trying to keep it light!

The new semester is about to start. I'm very excited. Dating, according to everyone I've talked with, tends to be pretty high-speed near the beginning of the semester. Near the end, the general idea is that you either have a boyfriend/girlfriend or give up.

Not I, of course. I'm always open for business.

Wow, that sounds wrong... Hehe.

All right, I've got a dilemma. Maybe one of you, my dear readers, will have some insight:

My ex is still completely infatuated with me. (Seriously, if I could just figure out what I did to get and keep HIM, I'd have the world on a string.) Except he's trying to act like he's not, and he's going a bad job of it. This wouldn't be too horrible, but he has a girlfriend right now, who happens to be a friend of mine. It's very weird when we're all together. I thought it was just me, but then another friend talked to me privately and asked what was going on. "You all seem like you're really good friends on the surface," he said, "but then I look at John [name changed] and there's something weird about it." Which pretty much sums it up...

The story went like this: John and I were friends when we met Annie -> Annie and I became friends -> John and I broke up (I did the dumping) -> John and Annie got together about two weeks afterward; much of the time I got the distinct feeling that he was flirting with her to try and make me jealous (he's unsubtle like that) -> Annie had a pregnancy scare; he'd pressured her to sleep with him -> John dumped Annie, giving her with little to no reason why -> Annie and I got pretty close while she got over the scare and breakup -> John and Annie got back together for reasons I don't know; Annie has learned to assert herself somewhat (still has major assertiveness and self-esteem issues) and they are on a strict no sex policy (which will hopefully make things a LITTLE less serious).

The awkward bit (well, most of it's awkward, but you get what I mean): whenever we're together, Annie and I are pretty good friends, and John and I are... sort-of friends. He tries, painfully hard, but I remain polite but standoffish. However, he'll come sit by me, leaving Annie alone if necessary. He finds whatever excuses he can to be by and talk to me. Every time I look up, his eyes are on me. He only cuddles with Annie when he thinks I might be watching. I've started to avoid hanging out with them, but it's hard because we travel in the same circles and have a lot of mutual friends.

Any tips? It's a bizarre situation... I can't tell her to dump the idiot because she really wants to "make it work" and is completely blind to how badly he treats her, and because I'm simply not going to see like a disinterested party since I am, after all, the ex he's constantly making googly eyes at. I've talked to him about it numerous times in no unclear terms, but he's dense as a lead brick... How do you convince someone they're over you?

Honestly... I'd enjoy the power, but this bothers me because it's my friend who's getting the raw end of the deal. It's not fair for her to be treated like dirt because he likes me.

Sigh.

On a brighter note: I've made friends with a guy who wants to take me to lunch --- we'll see if it happens with the new semester and all. I'm not really attracted to him, so I'm not going to call him up if he doesn't call me. I do like him, though, so... what happens, happens.

The guy I do like quite a lot seems to be sort-of getting over his girlfriend. I guess she's gotten back with her ex, so now he's coming to terms with the fact that it's really over. I'm doing my best to be there for him --- not just because I want to be the convenient next in line, mind, because I don't know if that's the case. Singlehood is fun. We're mostly just friends and I want to try and cheer him up the best I can.

All right, enough for now, lol. I'll be impressed if you've managed to get through all that...